Strong Starts for Strong Relationships
Whether you are someone who is feeling isolated or you simply would like to bring some new people into your life, you’ll discover that you need to think about first impressions.
With the advent of dating sites, video meetings and social networking, you have many different first impressions to make. How can you make sure that you are presenting yourself in an attractive way?
While being yourself is important, you will find that a certain amount of preparation can make a huge difference in how other people react to you.
Good Grammar, Good Spelling
When you are responding to a text message, use good grammar and good spelling. Things do get a little trickier if you are a smartphone, but in general, the longer your message is, the more diligent you should be about things like grammar and spelling.
If you are uncertain about the grammar or spelling, consider using an automatic check program, as found in most word processors.
This is doubly important if you are sending a message to someone for the first time.
Setting Up the First Meeting
If you have started chatting online with someone and you are interested in taking the meeting off line, broach the topic carefully. Not everyone has great experiences with meeting offline, and they might be a little wary.
A casual meeting in a public place is always best, and if they seem reluctant, do not push them.
The more you push, the less attractive you will look in this regard.
Be Aware of Your Background
Many people are interested in doing video chats before they meet in person, and if the other person is far away, this is a natural step for the relationship.
Before you actually try a video chat, however, be aware of what they can see along with your face. If you have a lot of junk and a lot of litter behind you, this is not going to make the best first impression. Tidy up a little, at the very least.
Remember that everything around you will contribute to their impression of you.
The more promptly you respond to a text or a message of any sort, the more favorable their first impressions of you will be.
Part of making a good impression is being very welcoming and very engaging, and you will find that prompt replies are part of that.
This does not mean that you have to be chained to your phone or your computer, but responding to a message as soon as you get it is very important.
Respectful First Meeting Contact
After talking with someone for a while alone, it is very easy to feel intimate with them. However, being together physically is another thing, and that means that you need to learn an entire set of new rules.
Do not assume that you are allowed to touch someone unless it has been agreed upon previously. Touching is something that can make someone very uncomfortable very quickly, so asking permission first is always a good idea.
You never know what people are particular about , so do not touch them until you have cleared it.
If you are someone who is deeply invested in making a great first impression on the people around you, take a moment to think about what you are doing or are not doing.